I want to share the following about my dear father.
On Fridays I attend a writing group in our local library.
I have been writing anecdotes since 2012.
At this stage I am using my older writings and edit and also expand them.
For today we had to do a short description of a person.
Illustrate characteristics of the character.
Use some conversation to illustrate it.
Here is my description of my father:
My father was about 5’7”/1.7 m.. tall, not very thin but also not really fat more stocky. As long as I can remember he did not have much hair, only a ring around the lower part of his head. My parents always explained this balding:”… The military cap stopped the hair growing because he had to wear it every day and night during the war..”
My father wasn’t a man of many words and jokes. He did not smile or laugh much.I was always looking to please him because he was very strict. It seems that he was a perfectionist when it came to planning and doing things.
I think he loved to work in the garage, fixing his car when it was broken.(Maybe he hated it, and had to do it. I will never know) He was really handy when it came to fixing and planning the best ways. He was the patriarch of the family. We obeyed him in everything.
Even after I had my own family my father still ruled and wanted me to do things as he wanted it up till his death.
On his death bed he still told my son, who was only 13: “Don’t be like your father. Look well after your mother!”
He also went on: “You have to come back to the Reformed Church.” I went over to my husband’s church the Dutch Reformed Church. It shows, till the end he wanted his way.
My father even had an argument with my mother before he passed away about her love for him.
He asked my mother:” Do you love me?” She answered “Yes, always will”. He went on: “Impossible you can’t love a person like me. You don’t love me.” Those words broke my mother’s heart. She had given her everything to him and our family. Afterwards she could not stop crying. I told her that he did not mean it like that.
This whole episode made me feel so sad and my heart yearned to wipe out those last words.